Body, Self

You Are What You Say You Are

I used to have this terrible habit where I would feel the need to repeat that I was fat in company just to ensure that everyone around me knew that I knew I was fat and didn’t need to comment or say it themselves. It was a defense mechanism I used for years and I always tried to put a humerous/fake confidence spin on it so that they wouldn’t feel the need to shame me in any way.

My identity was basically the fat girl who knew she was fat.

I let one thing define me, which was my weight, and it held me back from living a life that I wanted.

Luckily that has changed now and while I am still fat, I know that I am so much more than just that one word. I don’t think I can accurately put into words how much my life has changed since I stopped obsessing about who I thought I wanted and needed to be and started living for myself.

What this taught me is that nobody has more of a say or more of an influence over me and how I feel about myself than ME and for years I was my own worst enemy and it turns out most of us are but we need to learn to be our own best friends.

How often do you say really nasty things to yourself that you would never say to someone else? When was the last time you said something positive to and about yourself?

Guys, I know it is not easy to all of a sudden change your mind and become a body loving, successful, confident, bad bitch. I know this because I had to change my mind about myself. But what I can say is that it is so worth it to try.

We all deserve to know and feel the kind of our love that we give to everyone else. Think about how much you love your partner, your friend, your child, your parents, you can and should love yourself like that! I hope I can help you get there.

xxx

 

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About Kerry Heathfield-Sharper

I speak my truth. 🙌Body positivity ❤️Self love 👗Budget plus size fashion 🎬 Real life 💼 Fashion Merchandiser 9-5. Wannabe helper of women 2
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3 thoughts on “You Are What You Say You Are

  1. I wrote a similar post a while ago, not about calling myself fat but about the words that are used to describe yourself – you can’t help it sometimes but it really is something to think about. For the record Kerry, I know I have not met you in person but “the fat girl” is so far removed from how I see you. I see someone who is so inspiring, so confident, so beautiful, so kind, so bubbly…on and on and on… not once have I ever seen an outfit of the day and thought “oh wow she’s fat” – isn’t it funny how the defining words we use for ourselves often aren’t even what others see!

  2. Funny I don’t do this with weight. I just do it with looks. And I kinda feel it’s ok to not be the pretty one. I’ll be the smart one instead.

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