• Body,  Self

    How to Accept that Body Positivity is for You

    I think the biggest misconception about body positivity is that it’s for a certain type of body. I have had so many women of all shapes and sizes message me saying that they feel like it’s not for them or that they don’t feel like they can promote it or be part of it because they’re not fat. And this tells me that something is going wrong and that we need to check ourselves and make sure that we’re including everyBODY. I understand that the movement is predominantly promoted by fat people but that’s all the more reason why we need you! We need to spread the love to all…

  • Body

    Dear Body Shamer

    I wish you would think, I wish you would think before you say something about somebody else’s appearance. I wish you would think about how deeply the words you say can hurt and impact someone else. I wish you would think about how you would feel hearing those words that are on the tip of your tongue. I wish you would imagine the anger and pain you would feel if your child looked into your eyes with tears in theirs because someone has body shamed them. We all look in the mirror and more often than not don’t like what we see. We find the smallest things to critique. We…

  • Body

    Just because you don’t like your body doesn’t mean I can’t like mine

    I have been thinking a lot about body shaming and bullying and it is a proven fact that a lot of the time we project our own insecurities onto others – so in the case of body shaming, a personal, internal struggle with one’s own body will be directed at someone else, but that someone else is not the one with the problem. It used to upset me when I was in the presence of someone who was considerably smaller than me and they would talk about how fat they are because my first thought was always “if she thinks she’s fat, what does she think of me?” but I have…

  • Body,  Personal

    Is my body positivity an excuse for being unhealthy?

    This is a topic that is always flying around and everyone has their own opinion about whether or not body positivity actually promotes an unhealthy lifestyle because it is an “excuse” being labelled as a movement. I thought I would touch on this from my point of view and my journey (mine only). This is not to say that anyone on their own journeys, whatever they might be, is right or wrong because our journeys are personal, and that’s kind of the point of this post. It is no secret that I have lost and gained and lost and gained a lot of weight. I have tried everything, I have…

  • Body

    Are we brave for showing off our big bodies?

    We’ve all seen it – the fat girl in her bikini on the beach, the new mom showing off her postpartum body with the fresh stretchmarks, and the curvy girl “daring” to wear a crop top that shows off her chubby tummy. More often than not our first thoughts are “she’s brave” but I want to discuss why this is not the praise we should be thinking or giving. Obviously one of the big reasons that we see showing off our bumpy bodies as bravery is because the concept of accepting and appreciating diverse bodies is still pretty new to us, even though the fat acceptance and body positive movements…