• personal blog

    Competition/Comparison Kills Creativity

    I was watching the Daily Show last night and Trevor Noah was chatting to Terry Crews about Brooklyn 99 and Deadpool 2. He mentioned Terry’s versatility as an actor – the hilarious guy on Brooklyn 99 and then the complete opposite in Deadpool 2. Trevor described Terry as a “mold breaker” to which Terry had an amazing reply about being yourself and doing your thing and one of the things he said was “competition kills creativity”. And then I couldn’t sleep because I was thinking about it. There are SO many articles, blog posts, discussions about competition/comparison (which I believe go hand in hand), especially in the creative industry and…

  • Body,  Life

    Our Bodies and the Bedroom

    Most of us, if not all of us, have at some point, felt self conscious about our bodies in the bedroom. What’s meant to be something pleasurable and often special between two people can very quickly become your nightmare because you hate your body and therefore think your partner hates your body too. So you dim the lights or even switch them off, you don’t buy the sexy lingerie, you dive under the covers before you can be seen and you don’t enjoy it as much as you should and could because you’re too worried about your body. It ends up with you focusing on everything but the task at hand.…

  • Mind

    You Know What Anxiety Is?

    Anxiety is describable but indescribable at the same time. Anxiety feels like there is something that isn’t quite right, but you don’t know what that something is. Anxiety is noisy and busy. Anxiety is making a small mistake at work and not being able to stop thinking about it the whole day, wondering if your boss is pissed or thinks you’re completely useless. Anxiety is beating yourself up for saying something that you think is silly or for doing something awkward. Anxiety is worrying about yesterday, today and tomorrow. Anxiety is wanting to go out but wanting to go home once you’re there. Anxiety is trying to control everything, even…

  • Body,  Life

    Being A Plus Size Bride

    The husband and I celebrate our three year anniversary today and I am currently floating in a bubble filled with love, gratitude and memories. Walking down the aisle with both of my parents at my side, entering the hall after the ceremony and being announced as Mr and Mrs Sharper, our awkward first dance and the very emotional dance with my dad. It was beautiful, more special than I ever could have imagined and nothing, absolutely nothing mattered on the day, not even that we forgot to put salt and pepper on the tables. I wish I had known that leading up to the wedding because planning a wedding is…

  • Fashion

    How I’m going to do winter fashion on a budget

    I absolutely love winter fashion and I usually look so forward to shopping for the season but I am doing it differently this year because I am going all budget bad ass on my life, you can read all about it here. So I am going to be wearing what I have and will try and push through winter without buying much. I have taken stock of what I have and have browsed Pinterest for hours on end to find new ways of styling things that I already have and to get inspiration. This is how I plan on doing winter outfits on a budget; Don’t ditch the dresses I…