Body, Life

How Much does our Body Hate Hold us Back?

One of the best things about finding body acceptance and love is that I am not missing out on life and all that it has to offer anymore. Do you know how much is out there? Do you know what experiences await you? Do you know what it’s like to LIVE? And to live without the constant body hang ups?

I was reminded of how much we get held back by our bodies when I told my mom that I was going for a massage and her reply was “I will never go for one because I wouldn’t want them to see my body”.

This made me so incredibly sad! My mom, my best friend, my rock who has held me up when I have fallen down, who has carried me and all of my problems on her shoulders for 29 years, has never had the pleasure of a body massage that will do wonders for her mind and body, because she is scared of her body. The body that gave birth to me, the body that stood strong throughout every storm and the body that keeps her alive.

The thing is, I know and understand how she feels, I had my list of things I would never do because of my body. I missed out on experiences, on moments, on memories. Fortunately I can try and catch up on the experiences and I can make new memories but I can never go back to those moments and I can never be a part of those memories.

This is so much more than FOMO, it is so much deeper than a body complex. It is about wasting a life because of something that you were born with that was made to be perfectly imperfect, that was made to be unique and that is there to be a part of this life you are meant to live.

This is why I do what I do. This is why I will put myself out there and face potential shaming and being misunderstood and seen as lazy/unhealthy/obese/or whatever else the naysayers might think. I want to help you go to the beach in summer and run around with your dogs and/or your kids. I want you to strip down to your panties and experience the magic of a massage. I want you to have enough confidence in yourself to stand up for yourself. I want you to live your life, now! If you want to lose weight then I am not here to tell you not to, if you want to get fitter I am not going to say skip the gym, but I am going to encourage you to not let where you and your body are right now stop you from doing anything, other than the things you want to do!

I know that my readers are not haters or body shamers but I just want to say that if you ever feel the need to look at somebody and pass a comment, or shame someone, or talk about someone, to remember this post and think about the fact that if you see a fat lady on the beach with her kids or if you see someone who doesn’t have washboard abs wearing a crop top to just let them be, because their body is none of our business and they are just out there trying to live their life, like we all are.

One day, I will convince my mom to have that massage because she deserves all the best things in life, and so do you!

 

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About Kerry Heathfield-Sharper

I speak my truth. 🙌Body positivity ❤️Self love 👗Budget plus size fashion 🎬 Real life 💼 Fashion Merchandiser 9-5. Wannabe helper of women 2
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2 thoughts on “How Much does our Body Hate Hold us Back?

  1. I am typing this with a mouth full of Buger King in the middle of Germany. But what a lovely post. I can’t say that my body has ever held me back. I’ve been big and I have been less big. My issue is that I firmly believe nothing about me is beautiful. (Physically) and that has held me back.

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