The only thing that gets me more annoyed than body shaming is fashion rules. Especially when they are rules that apply to size. You know the ones I’m talking about – “don’t wear skinny jeans because girl, yo fat ass don’t belong in them”, or “stay away from stripes because they hate you”.
Here is my biggest problem with the rules – I know my body like nobody else does, I also know what I am comfortable and feel good in so those “one size fits all” rules are rubbish because I actually look good in stripes and my ass looks great in a pair of jeans.
By all means, follow advice and tips, but don’t avoid wearing something because somebody who thinks they know your body, your style, your budget, your preferences, said you shouldn’t. A fashion expert/editor/blogger/designer knows fashion, but they don’t know your body so who should you be trusting more? Yourself!
Fashion is personal and so is your body so the only rules that apply to you are ones that you set yourself but don’t be hard on yourself or your body. Experiment and try things on even if you don’t think they will look good on you, you might be pleasantly surprised.
I have my own set of rules but they’re not a set of fly by night rules, they are more of a process and will ultimately make you feel LESS restricted and learn to love fashion instead of hating it.
- Don’t be put off by the size on a label. I have mentioned numerous times before that every retailer uses a different spec. I can be a size small or an XXL depending on the retailer. So if you like something but you have to buy it in a large when you are normally a small just do it, cut the label out if you need to.
- Don’t be scared to show off your body. We are so used to trying to hide and flatter our “problem areas” but your curves can make the outfit.
- Stop buying clothing that fits and looks like a sack because you feel like you don’t deserve to wear anything that fashion forward or fitted. If oversized is your vibe then rock it, but don’t do it for the sake of hiding.
- Wear what you feel comfortable in – this is most important. But you have to determine your comfort first without any sort of influence by society and the rules. I didn’t wear dresses for the longest time because my legs are pale and I had a complex about them but when I actually started wearing dresses I realised that I am my most comfortable in dresses.
- Don’t be scared to at least try. It is just you and the mirror in the change room, I know the mirror can be our worst enemy but what have you got to lose if you experiment by yourself?
- Ask for opinions – if you love something and are unsure about it, don’t instantly toss it and move on. Ask for an opinion. You can do a poll on stories, you can ask a friend, you can even message me and ask.
- Just do you, boo boo. If you like it, wear it. It doesn’t matter what size it is, where it comes from or if it doesn’t abide by the rules.
My biggest source of fashion inspiration is Pinterest and Instagram so if you want to find your personal style then that’s the best place to start.
If you want to know where I shop for plus size clothes then take a look at this post. I will also be sharing my own tips (not rules) in an upcoming post.