It’s the question on everyone’s lips after Marie Kondo hit Netflix like a storm and changed our lives.
The idea is to declutter and ask yourself those 4 simple words before deciding whether to keep something or get rid of it. Seems simple when you’re in the darkest corners of your cupboards and come across old school books but not so easy when you stop reviewing things and start reviewing life.
So in collaboration with Simone from An Ordinary Gal we want to encourage you to declutter your life using Marie Kondo’s methods. I’m going to share with you what I have done to reach a place of joy I’ve honestly never known before.
Maybe it was easier for me because there was a stage I was so bitterly unhappy in everything that I had no choice but to take action and it was the best thing I have ever done for myself.
So let’s start asking the hard questions.
Do these expectations from others and yourself spark joy?
We all battle with expectations, to have an acceptable by society standards body, to be the right amount of confident, but not too much that you’re egotistical, to have a Pinterest looking home that never ever gets dirty, and the list carries on. But how free would you be if you didn’t have them? And if you didn’t allow the expectations from anyone else to weigh you down?
Trash those expectations!
Do these relationships spark joy?
This is a hard one because once you start really thinking about it, you might realise that some relationships need to end. The truth is that not everyone is good for you but that doesn’t necessarily make them bad so this is more about you than it is them.
If you look at all the people in your circle and you don’t feel inspired/happy/at peace/comfortable then you don’t have a circle. You have a cage.
Let that sink in and decide which box each relationship should go in.
Does your relationship with yourself spark joy?
This is a hard one I know but I really want you to try and work on it. You cannot hate your way into loving yourself.
These are a few things that have helped me;
Following social media accounts that promote body positivity, teach confidence, and that give informative information about our bodies/body image
Try replace every negative thought about yourself with a positive thought.
Get comfortable in your body. Appreciate what your body does for you every single day.
Stop following accounts or looking up to people that make you feel crap about yourself.
Spend time with yourself, get in touch with your emotions and feelings, learn who you are.
You are stuck with you forever so the sooner you embrace you, the more joyful your life will be.
What does spark joy?
Do some soul searching and figure out what sets your soul on fire and do more of it. Life will always be full of challenges, there will always be times where things are going great and then times when things go to shit BUT if you have those little things that make you happy such as reading, yoga, or writing, then you can escape with something that makes you happy for a while.
Do more of what makes you happy, it really is as simple as that.
I hope that you enjoyed this post and that you find the joy you deserve.