I think most of us have this perception that our body is what makes us sexy, and the body that we need in order to be sexy is the porn star body or the magazine cover body but that couldn’t be further from the truth because guess what…. YOU is what makes you sexy!
There is no blueprint for sexy. Sexy doesn’t come in one shape or one size and it definitely doesn’t have one type of look. Sexy is a feeling that comes from inner confidence.
I am speaking like I am a pro at being sexy and seductive and like I know it all, trust me when I say I don’t, but I have felt sexy, in the body I have right now, so I know you can too. So let’s discuss shall we?
Work on your confidence
The only thing keeping you from feeling sexy is your confidence, or lack thereof. Being confident is sexy in itself but when you have the confidence to feel and be sexy then it’s a whole new ball game and you can basically take on the world. Confidence won’t come overnight because I know we all have our insecurities but it’s worth it to work on it because it doesn’t only bring your sexy back but it helps in the work place, in your relationships and basically just being the woman you are meant to be.
Wear things that make you find that inner fierce and confident woman that you are. I know for me personally dressing in things that make me feel good is an instant mood and confidence booster. Wear the underwear that makes you feel confident in the bedroom. Wear the outfit that kicks your confidence up a notch to a meeting. Confidence can come from many different forms and this is one of them that works.
Bring your sexual goddess to life
We want to feel sexy in an intimate situation with our partner and this is actually the time we lack it most because we are self-conscious about our bodies and our lack of a 6 pack and perky boobs BUT your partner knows what you look like, hiding yourself takes away everything those moments are about. It’s about connecting with your body and your partner, NOT what your body looks like. So instead of switching the lights off, try and awaken a sexual goddess within yourself. Bring her to life. Do it once or twice and you will realise how empowering it is.
You were born with it
Remember that you weren’t born hating yourself, you’ve been taught to, so you have to unlearn all of that and get back to the basics of who you are, what your body can do. See the good in yourself like you did as a child. You have the power to be sexy inside of you. You have the power to be confident. You have it all, you just need to bring it out.
Disclaimer: This post is not to say that as a woman you HAVE to be sexy or that it’s something you have to strive for. I just know that there are so many of us who have moments where we want to feel sexy so I hope that this can help you in those moments.